Real Dude Radio

For Men about Women, Sex, Psychology, & Medicine

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The Cervix

Some women find that having their cervix stimulated is very satisfying. That’s why we did a podcast episode about the cervix, including how some women suggest you might stimulate it: “Hell Yes To Cervical Orgasms!” Says a Woman Who Loves Having Them. Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Amazon Music, Google Podcasts, and more!

Here is a slideshow about the cervix that was made to accompany this podcast episode.

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Real Dude Radio Podcast

Most men learn about sex from porn, which does not always provide an accurate view of women’s sexuality. That’s one of the reasons why Real Dude Radio exists: to provide science-based information for men who want to learn more about women’s bodies and women’s sexuality.

Also, women live more than five years longer than men do. Men die by suicide three-to-five times more often than women do, and we make up almost seven-out-of-every-ten drug overdose deaths.

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When Giving Her Oral Sex…

“When you are giving me oral sex and I’m on the brink of orgasm, DO NOT vary your technique. Keep the same rhythm and speed. Please.” — female age 27

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Sex in the shower — Essential Advice!


GRIPPER BARS Get ADA approved gripper bars for your shower — not that the ADA rates them for shower sex. One of you can grab the bars, making shower sex safer and giving you more leverage. (If your parents are visiting and say “WTF?” tell them they raised you to be responsible and to care about safety.)

These bars cost between $25 and $46 USD: 

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“Do Women Pee Through Their Vagina?”

In a gamer’s chat that included a number of adult males who have wives or girlfriends, a question was asked whether women pee through their vaginas. About 50% of the men said yes, and 50% said no. The pics in this slideshow should help clear that up.

WARNING: The following slideshow includes pics of an educational nature that are highly explicit, proving that education does not need to be boring!

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Morning Wood Feels Different than Erections From Being Aroused

Women often assume that an erection is an erection and it means a man is sexually aroused. Yet there are two different kinds of erections: the kind that result from feeling sexually aroused, and the not-aroused kind that occur during REM sleep and can also happen during the day, especially during the morning hours.

For several months, I included a question on my sex survey asking men if their early-morning (waking) erections feel the same or different than the erections they get when they are sexually aroused.

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For Our Brothers Who Are Gay and Bisexual

Straight and gay men have more in common than most people think. It doesn’t matter if we’re into women, men, or both–our brains are in a constant battle with our genitals over who’s in charge. And all of us understand how penises work, since we started yanking on our own when we were in the womb. However, vaginas are their own separate universe. So a website for men who are into women needs to tackle different issues than a site for men who are into men.

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The Quickest Way to a Woman’s Vagina Is Through Her Stomach

One of the best ways to get laid is to learn how to bake a cheesecake, pop out chocolate chip cookies, and a few more things — none of which requires a massive amount of time or skill. Your efforts will also catch thanks from friends and family. Check out our RECIPES for a good place to start.

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Good Sex after Bad–Rape and Abuse

A chapter from the “Guide To Getting It On” for women who have experienced rape or sexual abuse in the past, and for their current partners. Includes insightful observations and suggestions to help couples have wonderful sex when one or both have had bad experiences in the past.

Click Here to for a free PDF of the chapter.

Click Here to download a free EPUB of the chapter that you can read on an ebook reader. 

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The Ultimate Guide To The Clitoris

“I just watched The Ultimate Guide To The Clitoris and it’s totally fabulous. It is clear and practical. I will encourage many of my patients to watch this, and suggest that couples watch it together.” –Dr. Marty Klein, author of Sexual Intelligence, America’s War on Sex and His Porn, Her Pain.

A Woman’s Guide to Men’s Foreskins

Now that we have the first generation of men in North America whose foreskins are intact, a lot women have no clue what to do with them. If you are an intact male and have a female partner, be sure to watch this video together. It could be a great conversation starter and a win-win for both of you. ICYDK, foreskins are simply Nature’s way of giving a partner more to work with!

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A Woman’s Breasts Are Usually Not the Same Size

More than 90% of women have breasts that are different from each other in size, shape, or position on their chest. It’s usually the left breast that’s larger. In almost 25% of women, the larger breast is at least one cup size bigger than the other. This can make bra shopping an even bigger challenge than usual.

Over the course of a woman’s lifetime, her breast size will change up to six or seven times.

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How to Cure a Noisy Bed

Let’s say you just moved back home with your mom and dad and the last thing you want is for the whole house to know when you’re having sex thanks to a squeaky bed.

This is easier said than done, given how intercourse can turn a bed into a battering ram. The entire bed will sway toward the foot with each out-thrust and toward the head with each in-thrust. So if it’s hitting the wall,

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Condom Sampler Packs

One of the best ways to get a condom that’s right for you and your partner is to try sampler packs. Here’s the most extensive list of condom sampler packs on the planet. Find a brand or two that work well for both of you, and stock up.

Condoms that are made from thinner material are as effective for disease prevention as condoms made from thicker material. An advantage of thinner condoms is you can get more sensation and more heat transfer from your partner’s body.

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Women Don’t Like the Way Condoms Feel Any More Than Men Do

Condoms are one of the few ways to prevent the spread of many sexually transmitted infections. Yet men often complain about the way condoms feel, and we assume that men are the only ones who don’t like the way condoms feel.

So imagine my surprise at the groundswell of complaints I’ve received from women when I started asking this question on my sex survey: “Do condoms impact the sensation you receive from intercourse?”

I’ve now received hundreds of complaints from women about condoms.

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Unable to Pee in Public; aka Bashful Bladder, Being Pee Shy, or Paruresis

You wouldn’t believe the number of men who have trouble using public rest rooms, and not because they don’t like the smell or have hygiene issues. 

Being unable to relieve yourself in a public rest room is called paruresis or bashful bladder syndrome. It’s a very real problem that can limit how far away from home a person can venture and for how long. Being pee-shy can get in the way of taking a urinalysis at work or for a job interview–forget being able to take a leak at a concert,

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The Sometimes Complex Emotions of Fathers-to-Be

There are dozens of books and posts for pregnant moms about the feelings they are experiencing. Yet dads-to-be experience their own pregnancy-related emotions that are seldom discussed. Fortunately, we have the research of James Herzog to provide valuable insights into the emotions of dads-to-be.

According to Dr. Herzog, dads-to-be often fall into two groups: those whom he calls more attuned, and those whom he describes as being less attuned. One of the biggest factors that determine which group a man falls into is the influence of his own father or father substitutes when he was growing up.

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Sex in Porn vs Real Life

With special guest host, Bob the Llama! While it’s totally fine to watch and enjoy porn, if you want to be good in bed, you need to be aware of the differences between sex in porn and sex in real life.

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Why You Should NEVER Choke a Partner During Sex!

The single most dangerous act that porn has helped popularize is the idea that women like to be choked during sex.

How Dangerous? As dangerous as a police chokehold.

How Popular? According to a female reader who attends a major university: “Several male partners have choked me during sex, without asking!” In case you think she is exaggerating, consider these findings from a recent study of almost 5,000 undergraduates at a large university in the midwest:

“A majority of undergraduates in our sample have choked or been choked during sex…

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What Every Man (and Woman) Needs To Know About Consent

Consent in sex is massively important, yet it can be very confusing–especially because of the well-intended but often misleading slogans about it. This free chapter from the Guide To Getting It On is being used in college courses, and is one of the most helpful explanations about consent there is.

Click Here to for a free PDF of the chapter.

Click Here to download a free EPUB of the chapter that you can read on an ebook reader. 

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Fap Not – Masturbation Madness

Masturbation is one of nature’s nicest gifts to human beings. For many of us, it’s a sanity saver. This video is Dr. Paul’s answer to people who think there’s something bad about masturbation.