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From Our Sex Survey
The Real Dude Radio Podcast
A podcast for men about women, sex, psychology, and medicine. Begins during the week of March 20.
When Giving Her Oral Sex…
“When you are giving me oral sex and I’m on the brink of orgasm, DO NOT vary your technique. Keep the same rhythm and speed. Please.” — female age 27
Sex in the shower — Essential Advice!
GRIPPER BARS and WATERPROOF LUBE! Get ADA approved gripper bars for your shower — not that the ADA rates them for shower sex. One of you can grab the bars, making shower sex safer and giving you more leverage. (If your parents are visiting and say “WTF?” tell them they raised you to be responsible and to care about safety.)
These bars cost between $25 and $46 USD: Moen 8942 Home Care 42-Inch Grab Bar Stainless 42 inches (4.8 out of 5 stars from 3,233 reviews on Amazon,
Things Men Don’t Know About Women’s Masturbation
Women’s masturbation can be more nuanced than men’s masturbation. This brief video explains some of the reasons why.
“Do Women Pee Through Their Vagina?”
In a gamer’s chat that included a number of adult males who have wives or girlfriends, a question was asked whether women pee through their vaginas. About 50% of the men said yes, and 50% said no. The pics in this slideshow should help clear that up.
WARNING: The following slideshow includes pics of an educational nature that are highly explicit, proving that education does not need to be boring!
Morning Wood Feels Different than Erections From Being Aroused
Women often assume that an erection is an erection and it means a man is sexually aroused. Yet there are two different kinds of erections: the kind that result from feeling sexually aroused, and the not-aroused kind that occur during REM sleep and can also happen during the day, especially during the morning hours.
For several months, I included a question on my sex survey asking men if their early-morning (waking) erections feel the same or different than the erections they get when they are sexually aroused.
Masturbation Is Perfectly Safe and Healthy To Do Alone or With a Partner
The Quickest Way to a Woman’s Vagina Is Through Her Stomach
One of the best ways to get laid is to learn how to bake a cheesecake, pop out chocolate chip cookies, and a few more things — none of which requires a massive amount of time or skill. Your efforts will also catch thanks from friends and family. Check out our RECIPES for a good place to start.
Most Women Don’t Want Men to Come on Their Face. Here’s Why
In porn, women love getting facials. But in Real Life? Not so much. This video explains why.
Why Rear Entry Positions Are Uncomfortable for Some Women
Having a tipped uterus is normal, but it can make rear entry positions uncomfortable. This video shows why, and explains why so it’s important for couples to experiment and find which positions feel best for them.
The Ultimate Guide To The Clitoris
“I just watched The Ultimate Guide To The Clitoris and it’s totally fabulous. It is clear and practical. I will encourage many of my patients to watch this, and suggest that couples watch it together.” –Dr. Marty Klein, author of Sexual Intelligence, America’s War on Sex and His Porn, Her Pain.
A Woman’s Guide to Men’s Foreskins
Now that we have the first generation of men in North America whose foreskins are intact, a lot women have no clue what to do with them. If you are an intact male and have a female partner, be sure to watch this video together. It could be a great conversation starter and a win-win for both of you. ICYDK, foreskins are simply Nature’s way of giving a partner more to work with!
A Woman’s Breasts Are Usually Not the Same Size
More than 90% of women have breasts that are different from each other in size, shape, or position on their chest. It’s usually the left breast that’s larger. In almost 25% of women, the larger breast is at least one cup size bigger than the other. This can make bra shopping an even bigger challenge than usual.
Over the course of a woman’s lifetime, her breast size will change up to six or seven times.
How to Cure a Noisy Bed
Let’s say you just moved back home with your mom and dad and the last thing you want is for the whole house to know when you’re having sex thanks to a squeaky bed.
This is easier said than done, given how intercourse can turn a bed into a battering ram. The entire bed will sway toward the foot with each out-thrust and toward the head with each in-thrust. So if it’s hitting the wall,
Condom Sampler Packs
One of the best ways to get a condom that’s right for you and your partner is to try sampler packs. Here’s the most extensive list of condom sampler packs on the planet. Find a brand or two that work well for both of you, and stock up.
Condoms that are made from thinner material are as effective for disease prevention as condoms made from thicker material. An advantage of thinner condoms is you can get more sensation and more heat transfer from your partner’s body.
Women Don’t Like the Way Condoms Feel Any More Than Men Do
We assume that men are the only ones who don’t like the way condoms feel. Maybe that’s because men aren’t shy about saying so, or because we never think to ask women.
So imagine my surprise at the groundswell of complaints I’ve received from women when I started asking this question on my sex survey: “Do condoms impact the sensation you receive from intercourse?”
I’ve now received hundreds of complaints from women about condoms.
Unable to Pee in Public; aka Bashful Bladder, Being Pee Shy, or Paruresis
You wouldn’t believe the number of men who have trouble using public rest rooms, and not because they don’t like the smell or have hygiene issues.
Being unable to relieve yourself in a public rest room is called paruresis or bashful bladder syndrome. It’s very real problem that can limit how far away from home a person can venture and for how long. Being pee-shy can get in the way of taking a urinalysis at work or for a job interview–forget being able to take a leak at a concert,
The Sometimes Complex Emotions of Fathers-to-Be
There are dozens of books and posts for pregnant moms about the feelings they are experiencing. Yet dads-to-be experience their own pregnancy-related emotions that are seldom discussed. Fortunately, we have the research of James Herzog to provide valuable insights into the emotions of dads-to-be.
According to Dr. Herzog, dads-to-be often fall into two groups: those whom he calls more attuned, and those whom he describes as being less attuned. One of the biggest factors that determine which group a man falls into is the influence of his own father or father substitutes when he was growing up.
Sex in Porn vs Real Life
With special guest host, Bob the Llama! While it’s totally fine to watch and enjoy porn, if you want to be good in bed, you need to be aware of the differences between sex in porn and sex in real life.
Why You Should NEVER Choke a Partner During Sex!
The single most dangerous act that porn has helped popularize is the idea that women like to be choked during sex.
How Dangerous? As dangerous as a police chokehold.
How popular? According to a female reader who attends a major university: “Several male partners have choked me during sex, without asking!” In case you think she is exaggerating, consider these findings from a recent study of almost 5,000 undergraduates at a large university in the midwest:
“A majority of undergraduates in our sample have choked or been choked during sex…
What Every Man (and Woman) Needs To Know About Consent
Consent in sex is massively important, yet it can be very confusing–especially because of the well-intended but often misleading slogans about it. This free chapter from the Guide To Getting It On is being used in college courses, and is one of the most helpful explanations about consent there is.
Click Here to for a free PDF of the chapter.
Click Here to download a free EPUB of the chapter that you can read on an ebook reader.
Fap Not – Masturbation Madness
Masturbation is one of nature’s nicest gifts to human beings. For many of us, it’s a sanity saver. Unfortunately, there are groups spreading false information about masturbation, trying to make men feel guilty or wrong about doing it. This video is Dr. Paul’s answer to people who think there’s something bad about masturbation.