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A chapter from the “Guide To Getting It On” for women who have experienced rape or sexual abuse in the past, and for their current partners. Includes insightful observations and suggestions to help couples have wonderful sex when one or both have had bad experiences in the past.
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A podcast for men that’s about women, sex, psychology, and medicine. You won’t find a more informative and helpful podcast for men where the author has actually read and analyzed the latest studies before telling you about them, as opposed to making shit up or relying on questionable data and press releases. Begins in June.
“When you are giving me oral sex and I’m on the brink of orgasm, DO NOT vary your technique. Keep the same rhythm and speed. Please.” — female age 27
One of the best ways to get laid is to learn how to bake a cheesecake, pop out chocolate chip cookies, and a few more things — none of which requires a massive amount of time or skill. Your efforts will also catch thanks from friends and family. Check out our RECIPES for a good place to start.
Consent in sex is massively important, yet it can be very confusing–especially because of the well-intended but often misleading slogans about it. This free chapter from the Guide To Getting It On is being used in college courses, and is one of the most helpful explanations about consent there is.
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GRIPPER BARS and WATERPROOF LUBE! Get ADA approved gripper bars for your shower — not that the ADA rates them for shower sex. One of you can grab the bars, making shower sex safer and giving you more leverage. (If your parents are visiting and say “WTF?” tell them they raised you to be responsible and to care about safety.)
These bars cost between $25 and $46 USD: Moen 8942 Home Care 42-Inch Grab Bar Stainless 42 inches (4.8 out of 5 stars from 3,233 reviews on Amazon,
Women often assume that an erection is an erection and it means a man is sexually aroused. Yet there are two different kinds of erections: the kind that result from feeling sexually aroused, and the not-aroused kind that occur during REM sleep and can also happen during the day, especially during the morning hours.
For several months, I included a question on my sex survey asking men if their early-morning (waking) erections feel the same or different than the erections they get when they are sexually aroused.
“I just watched The Ultimate Guide To The Clitoris and it’s totally fabulous. It is clear and practical. I will encourage many of my patients to watch this, and suggest that couples watch it together.” –Dr. Marty Klein, author of Sexual Intelligence, America’s War on Sex and His Porn, Her Pain.
Now that we have the first generation of men in North America whose foreskins are intact, a lot women have no clue what to do with them. If you are an intact male and have a female partner, be sure to watch this video together. It could be a great conversation starter and a win-win for both of you. ICYDK, foreskins are simply Nature’s way of giving a partner more to work with!
Condoms are one of the few ways to prevent the spread of many sexually transmitted infections. Yet men often complain about the way condoms feel, and we assume that men are the only ones who don’t like the way condoms feel.
So imagine my surprise at the groundswell of complaints I’ve received from women when I started asking this question on my sex survey: “Do condoms impact the sensation you receive from intercourse?”
I’ve now received hundreds of complaints from women about condoms.
Having a tipped uterus is normal, but it can make rear entry positions uncomfortable. This video shows why, and explains why so it’s important for couples to experiment and find which positions feel best for them.
In porn, women love getting facials. But in Real Life? Not so much. This video explains why.
Masturbation is one of nature’s nicest gifts to human beings. For many of us, it’s a sanity saver. Unfortunately, there are groups spreading false information about masturbation, trying to make men feel guilty or wrong about doing it. This video is Dr. Paul’s answer to people who think there’s something bad about masturbation.
One of the few truly excellent websites for gay and bisexual men by the Burnett Foundation.
The single most dangerous act that porn has helped popularize is the idea that women like to be choked during sex.
How Dangerous? As dangerous as a police chokehold.
How Popular? According to a female reader who attends a major university: “Several male partners have choked me during sex, without asking!” In case you think she is exaggerating, consider these findings from a recent study of almost 5,000 undergraduates at a large university in the midwest:
“A majority of undergraduates in our sample have choked or been choked during sex…
Let’s say you just moved back home with your mom and dad and the last thing you want is for the whole house to know when you’re having sex thanks to a squeaky bed.
This is easier said than done, given how intercourse can turn a bed into a battering ram. The entire bed will sway toward the foot with each out-thrust and toward the head with each in-thrust. So if it’s hitting the wall,
With special guest host, Bob the Llama! While it’s totally fine to watch and enjoy porn, if you want to be good in bed, you need to be aware of the differences between sex in porn and sex in real life.
One of the best ways to get a condom that’s right for you and your partner is to try sampler packs. Here’s the most extensive list of condom sampler packs on the planet. Find a brand or two that work well for both of you, and stock up.
Condoms that are made from thinner material are as effective for disease prevention as condoms made from thicker material. An advantage of thinner condoms is you can get more sensation and more heat transfer from your partner’s body.